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When we’re triggered in conflict, it’s an indicator that we have experienced this pain before and that our type structure is activated. Our reminders of the past impacts how we react today (this may be why you have reaction that seems dis

Sometimes we just need a reminder to come back to self. ❤

It can be helpful to use this quick prompts as an invitation for deeper self-inquiry:

What do you notice within you as you read your types reminder?
What sensations arise?
What thoughts pop

Have you noticed any of these beliefs show up in your own life and relationships?

These ingrained thought patterns perpetuate separation in our lives, but as we learn how (and why) we hold ourselves back, it allows us to begin to penetrate the walls

Being able to see and name what's occurring in heat of the moment is so powerful. It also can make you feel so dang good about yourself, can't it?! Like "Ahh yes I caught it! Look at me go! 😎"
The best feeling.

As we deepen in self-awaren

We all have those "Oh $#!@" moments in relationship where we can see our type structure in action.

It can be easy to slip into self-judgment when we notice old or frustrating behaviors, but it's so important to connect to self-compassion.

While our childhood patterns are much (much!) more complex than described in this series, the content above does highlight a few key points from The Wisdom of the Enneagram by Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson that are really digestible and valuable.

Have you ever noticed that conflict can occur when what you really need is closeness? We see it allllll the time in our couples sessions, when they share about a fight they got into where one was feeling anxious and somehow it turned into a heated di

The Enneagram shows us that as adults it's really like we're playing one big game of telephone.

This happens for many reasons, and one important one is our Enneagram types distorted listening filters. AKA what our type structure twists and twists an

This is what emotional support can look like. 👆

We get there by presence, curiosity, and attunement. Learning to hold space for our partner's emotional experience and growing in these areas will be different for each Enneagram type.

Some questions

Questions to reflect on:

How do you see these qualities in your current relationship?
What areas would you personally like to grow more in?
Which one is most challenging for your type?
Is there anything that you would like to add that's important to

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